WQ #21: May 24: HONORABLE – bringing or worthy of honor. Used as a title indicating eminence or distinction, given especially to judges and certain high officials.

Happy Wednesday, and welcome to #WQ (Wednesday Quotes). Here’s your chance to showcase your photos, poems, thoughts, and stories about the honorable person or idea of your choice. All you need is one awesome quote. Feel free to skim, but don’t skip the very end where your posts are highlighted! Please read at least a few of the other links in this party.

Memorial Day Honors the Fallen

It’s hard to believe that Memorial Day, May 29th, is almost here. The year is almost half gone.

“To honor with hymns and panegyrics those who are still alive is not safe; a man should run his course and make a fair ending, and then we will praise him; and let praise be given equally to women as well as men who have been distinguished in virtue.”

-Plato

Plato would probably approve of Memorial Day as our most important holiday.

Woodlake Veterans during a Memorial Day Ceremony

This week Vince and I watched the 2017 movie, “The Yellow Birds” the other night. The protagonists were two young men, Bartle and Murph and their sergeant who fought together in Iraq. Their youthfulness and innocence hit me viscerally. Their expressions crumbled when a soldier shot an innocent woman, or they saw friends dying and being wounded. Then they raised their rifles and trudged on.

…Bartle realizes that ordinary conceptions of human justice is unable to account for the horrors that he has witnessed or taken part in, he becomes convinced that such actions are not necessarily individuals’ fault, but can be seen as the product of war itself.LitCharts

Tule River Native Veterans Post 1987 honoring the flags

Running to Feed the Hungry

No person was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave.

– Calvin Coolidge
Father and son honor each other for top place in their age category – Kiwanis Roundup for Hunger run.

They would tell you they had fun, not that they raised money for hunger or beat everyone else’s times for the event.

An Eye for an Eye or Not!

 “No revenge is more honorable than the one not taken.”

-Spanish Proverb

I’ve been reading the book of Samuel in the Old Testament about King Saul’s bitter jealousy of David, who had been anointed to take his place. Many times Saul took thousands of soldiers and tried to track down and kill David.

On two of those occasions, David caught Saul unaware. Once, he cut off a small piece of Saul’s robe. Another time he took his sword while he was sleeping. On both occasions, Saul was sheepish and recognized that David behaved more honorably than he had. On those two occasions, Saul went home and quit chasing him for a while.

Can We Blame Catastrophes On Ourselves?

“When misguided public opinion honors what is despicable and despises what is honorable, punishes virtue and rewards vice, encourages what is harmful and discourages what is useful, applauds falsehood and smothers truth under indifference or insult, a nation turns its back on progress and can be restored only by the terrible lessons of catastrophe.”

– Frederic Bastiat – French economist and political philosopher who lived in the 19th century

Some things never change. The catastrophes this winter in Prescott were mild compared to other parts of the country even a few miles north of us in Flagstaff.

Admonishing is a Double-Edged Sword

“The one who admonishes his brother secretly, he has advised sincerely and has honored him. If he does it outwardly (among others) then he has dishonored and shamed him.”

– Al-Shafi‘i – an 8th century Islamic jurist and theologian

Who could dishonor this adorable little blond boy? His sister, of course. I remember the first time I did it right.

We were teens, and he had been misbehaving at school. Mom had threatened him, and I believed she would carry out her threat. For the first time, I imagined my life without him. I begged him to take Mom seriously and straighten up. Amazingly, he listened to me and finished high school without any more incidents.

Honorable Poetry

Honorablity takes self-contol.
Once you've faced your fears, it's easier.
None the less, don't conjure scenarios,
Or let your imagination scare you.
Rely on your gut to get you through.
Access the power of God to help you.
Believe in the value of honor.
Live like the person in need is you.
Emote after trouncing malevolence. 

©Marsha Ingrao 2023

To participate in this week’s Tanka Tuesday poetry, write an acrostic syllabic poem with 8-10 syllables per line using some fantasy words. Check out her post for the words to use.

Your Purpose

This quote reminds me of Cindy Georgekas’ new book, Re-Create and Celebrate which I have been reading to participate in her book launch. You don’t have to wait for my review to get the book.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Do you agree with Emerson? Which is more important to you being happy or doing the right thing?

Coach Ainley was still teaching at age 72 because he had a lot of values to teach high school students. They loved him. By his middle 80s, when these pictures were taken, he volunteered at school and community events. His message was the same, “Always act with honor.” Even now, he still mails me notes on cards asking how we are doing from time to time. He is one of the most caring and honorable men I know.

Honoring Others with Public Art

“Honor the hands that harvest your crops.”

-Delores Huerta

Does this midcentury workplace seem like a 19th-century school?

“Male and female citizens, being equal in the eyes of the law, must be equally admitted to all honors, positions, and public employment according to their capacity and without other distinctions besides those of their virtues and talents.”

-— Olympe de Gouges – 18th Century French playwright

Is It More Honorable to Let Your Pet Die Naturally or Not?

You feel a little bit like God when you take your pet into the vet with the decision in mind that you are probably going to put it down instead of continuing to treat it. You wonder if you did all you could do for it.

I’ve had many pets, and all of them but one has died. I felt guilty about every one, both the ones who died naturally and the ones who didn’t. Except Mama Kitty. She lived to be 18-19 or more. Went for a walk with Puppy Girl and I. We found her lying on the grass later in the day. She was down to about 1 pound, most of it hair.

Until the last minute, she talked to us, loved us, and was the kindest, most gentle cat I knew. She was an outdoor cat, so we didn’t know if she was sick often, but she didn’t seem to be. She just got old and died.

So the question is, what is the honorable way for your pet’s life to end?

Mama Kitty in 2017 near the end of her life

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57 responses to “WQ #21: Is Being Honorable – Better Than Happiness?”

  1. Janet Alcorn Avatar

    Lots to consider in the questions you pose. I’ll respond to 2 of them:
    1. Happiness vs. service: My answer is both/and. Devoting one’s life solely to chasing happiness is shallow and–IMHO–unlikely to result in actual happiness but a series of ever-more-disappointing experiences. Why disappointing? Because they’re devoid of meaning. At the same time, living solely for duty without joy, without frivolity even, seems soulless and a series of lost opportunities. Life is beautiful and wonderful, and we cheat ourselves if we don’t take time to notice and celebrate the beauty and wonder. If we don’t take time to play. Life is about more than work and duty. In other words, we need balance, and we need to find joy in duty and service in happiness.

    Whether a natural death is better for a pet: This is something I feel very strongly about, having lost several pets over the years and seen the difference in their deaths vs. the unrelenting suffering of dying humans close to me. We have an obligation as pet-keepers to ease and even end their suffering if we can. I think we have an obligation as a society to ease suffering in humans too–or in the case of end of life care, to let humans end their own suffering if it can’t be eased enough to make them want to endure till the natural end. To me, the last gift I can give a beloved pet is a peaceful, painless death. It’s so hard, and yes, there’s always some guilt (Is it too soon? Is there something else I could have done for them?), but letting a pet suffer when there’s nothing more to do is, to me, a deeply selfish and cruel act.

    And this is possibly the most serious comment I’ve ever made on a blog post. Thanks for making me think today.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      It is a serious response, Janet, and so well said. The responses to this have been very thoughtful.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I can’t reply on my phone, but as soon as I get my computer plugged in, I’ll reply on your blog. Beautiful thoughts. You are a very honorable person as evidenced by your blogging. It’s a privilege to know you.

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      1. Sadje Avatar

        Thanks a lot Marsha. Your kind words are so much appreciated

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Your post isn’t coming up on my phone. We’re on our way to Scottsdale right now, so I’ll visit in a couple of hours or so. Lots of love.

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  2. leannelc Avatar

    Hi Marsha – frivolous happiness is a little shallow and overrated. I think happiness that is tied in with honour and purpose and authenticity is so much deeper and more joyful – give me that any day!

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I agree 100%. Janet Alcorn said the same thing and went on to say something like it’s good when we find our joy in honorable service.

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  3. ladyleemanila Avatar

    great post Marsha, lots of ideas, photos, experience, etc. Love them all 🙂

    “Be honest, be kind, be honourable”

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  4. Writing Sparkle Avatar

    Nice coffee post, Marsha. You shared some great photographs.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thank you so much.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks for the link, Marilyn! 🙂

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  5. Natalie Avatar

    Hi Marsha, Thank you for your weekend coffee share. The murals are beautiful with a lot of details. I enjoyed examining them. You and your brother look adorable in that photo.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thank you Natalie. Murals are wonderful examples of public arts. Randy and I LOOK cute and cuddly in the picture. The Facebook picture of the 1950s, LOL.

      Hopefully we were nice to each other more than not! All of my grandparents, including my great-grandparents, limited our time together because all of them had experience raising only children. Until I started school I don’t think Randy and I spent too much time together – too busy being passed around to grandparents. We are only two years apart.

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  6. Marilyn Armstrong Avatar

    It is ironic these days to want to honor those who went to war — yet despise that there is war and apparently will always BE war. Anyway, my post is up tomorrow. I’m never really sure what your format is, so I just do what I do and hope it’s okay. At least the weather is nice.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I will look for it. I don’t worry too much about format. It’s totally up to the participant, Marilyn. 🙂 I’m just happy if people respond. 🙂 The posts are always interesting! 🙂

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  7. robertawrites235681907 Avatar

    As always, there is a lot going on in this post, Marsha. I also enjoyed Cindy’s book very much and I look forward to your post about it next week. WRT animals dying naturally or with intervention, I reflected on human death recently when my husband’s grandmother of 101 passed last week Monday. Una was a determined and strong woman. She knew she was dying at the end and she did not want to. She fought death tooth and nail and wouldn’t go to sleep in case she didn’t wake up. She did not allow herself to pass naturally. The family had to hospitalise her and she ended her life on morphine to keep her quite and calm as she was very agitated and upset. It was very upsetting and I felt it was a shame she feared death so much and wasn’t able to just go to sleep and slip away. I hope I will be different when my time comes.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      That is a heart-rending story, Robbie. I am so sorry! My mother was the same way. She was so agitated, and I was shocked. She was also in a lot of pain because her kidneys had shut down, as had her fistula where they gave her dialysis. I’m not a fan of people dying. I’m like you, I’d like to go gracefully.

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  8. Kirstin Troyer Avatar

    Such great thoughts Marsha! I think either way of a pet dying is honorable…sometimes they are just suffering too much. Loved the quotes you found. I shared the Ralph Waldo Emerson one too. I did add my link to the link party. I’ll put it here too though 🙂

    https://troyerslovinglife.blogspot.com/2023/05/putting-fingers-to-keyboardwq-theme_24.html

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I love that you do both, Kirstin. I hope people see it either way. I’m still listing them on my blog twice, but I may go to one time and just use Mr. Linky for the first link. What I love about hosting a challenge is that I have the links so I can visit those bloggers every week.

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  9. KymPossible Avatar

    Fantastic collection of thought-provoking quotes you included this week!

    My youngest son was a member of Civil Air Patrol for a number of years and one of the highlights of that experience was marching in our town’s Memorial Day parade. He was privileged to meet many veterans and it was deeply moving to him (and to our whole family) to remember those who died in service and express our gratitude and respect to the veterans.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      That’s a great experience, and I’m glad the whole family got involved. In Woodlake High School, a friend of mine, former social studies teacher, arranged a day when Veterans came to the school and set up booths with their memorabilia. The students would be dismissed during different classes to come to the Veteran’s Building across the street where they would interview the veterans and then write up a report. I have some great pictures of these interactions. Both groups were so engaged in the activity. It was a big success. I don’t know if they still do it.

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  10. littlelilly Avatar

    Wow, this is a wonderful post, Marsha! Me too, I love acrostic poems.

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  11. Cindy Georgakas Avatar

    love the picture Marsha.. can’t open?

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I don’t know what happened, Cindy. Maybe it didn’t open because I was revising it. I added a part about pets to coincide with Terri’s Sunday Stills. That’s about the only thing I can’t think of. Thanks for trying!

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      1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar

        that’s so odd but others saw it so I’m glad!! 💗

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          I’m sad that you didn’t! 🙂

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          1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar

            i’ll try again.. happy now.? 💗

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            I didn’t meant it that way, but I am happy. Were you able to see the pictures this time?

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  12. Wind Kisses Avatar

    Thank you for covering what is indeed honorable. Memorial Day is remembered here. And I agree with the Emerson quote. Happiness is secondary to doing the right thing because it is the right thing to do. to me anyway.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      And you are honorable, a great example of the independence that is created by being honorable.

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      1. Wind Kisses Avatar

        Thank you Marsha. Not sure you are back in Prescott but Saturdays are usually the day to place flags at the National Cemeteries. Usually very early.

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          I am back in Prescott. Is that everywhere? Are you going to put the out this year?

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          1. Wind Kisses Avatar

            Yes… right now that is our plan. I will have 3 of the grandkids so I might have to bribe them to get up with donuts as we need to be there by 7. Saturday. Prescotts National cemetery is smaller. I’m not sure about flag placement. Also most likely Saturday.

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            I’m helping a friend pack on Saturday. Another one of our friends lost her husband last week and she is helping pack so I’m going to be with her too.

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  13. Terri Webster Schrandt Avatar

    Aww, I love what you did with the subject of honoring our pets, Marsha. When it’s their time to go, we hate to be the ones to make the decision, but we really are responsible for making that awful choice. Their suffering is not an option and it’s the honorable thing to do to let their spirits go.
    This was such a lovely post overall, from honoring those who serve(d) and the relationships in our daily lives, as well as our community. The quote by the French economist rings startlingly true, doesn’t it? We puny humans have to remember that we are NOT masters of the universe, and acts of God are what levels the playing field ultimately. Your acrostic poem says it all! As usual, your WQ post is filled with inspiration!

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. At first I didn’t see a connection with animals, but after all our conversations, it just made sense. The French economist was a bit scary, for sure!

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  14. restlessjo Avatar

    A huge subject and some great quotes and stories, Marsha. We all know the ‘right’ answer but most of us wouldn’t choose it. We wouldn’t deliberately do something dishonourable, but I suspect that happiness would win out.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Haha, I love your honesty, Jo. As much as the two of us laugh and love doing it, I’m afraid you are right. It’s hard to make yourself deliberately unhappy. There must be a way that the two go together. I can be happy being honorable sometimes – not when I’m putting my Puppy Girl down, though. 😦

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  15. eklastic Avatar

    As usual, a broad sweep of the subject from you! And you were a good sister!

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Sometimes I was a good sister. He didn’t always think so, and he was right. We’ve cleared the air several times as adults and are good friends now.

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      1. eklastic Avatar

        That’s how it should be!

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Yes, I agree! 🙂

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  16. GraceoftheSun Avatar

    Great post. Fabulous pictures. Love the Acrostic poem. Wonderful. 💕

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thank you, I noticed that you love Acrostics. I do too! 🙂

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      1. GraceoftheSun Avatar

        I do. They are so fun.💕💕💕

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          I agree 100%. A – absolutely, G – gems, R – really easy, E – evocative, E – eclectic.

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          1. GraceoftheSun Avatar

            Yesss 💕🙌💕

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      What a cute title. I’m on my way over!

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