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WQW #2: Communication: Socializing Is It Worth Your Time?

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Last year the post on communication was one of the most popular posts. This year let’s expand on that idea over several posts throughout the year and relate communication to what we all do – blogging our way through life.

“Great conversations always spark in a genuine interest to recognize and know the other person’s story and, therefore, recognizing and understanding and celebrating their humanity.”

– Janet Mock
A Woodlake Veteran engaged in conversation with a Woodlake High School student. The student’s body language shows that he is very interested. He’s bent over and is pointing at the object that the veteran held. So cool!

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Your friendships mean so much. I was planning to take two weeks off, but as you can see, this post starts a new year of topics for WQW.

#WQW # – Topic: Socializing

Definition: 1. the action or practice of participating in social activities or mixing socially with others. 2. the action or process of causing a person to behave in a way that is acceptable to their society. 3. causing someone to behave in a way that is acceptable to their society.

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“Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings.”

– Miles Franklin

Possible Guiding Questions

You don’t have to answer these questions, but they might spark your thinking as they did mine.

  • What happens if humans don’t socialize?
  • How does blogging fit into healthy socializing?
  • Is socializing worth your time?
  • How much time does it take to socialize?
  • What are the benefits of socializing?
  • Ways to socialize
  • Where and how to teach socialization

My Brainstorm of Ways to Socialize

Socializing falls into three basic categories: Face-to-Face, Verbal, and Written Communication.

  • Face-to-Face Communication: uses all senses, can be either spontaneous or planned
    • Travel together – introduces proximity, usually planned, incorporates all five senses
    • Walk together – uses all senses, is active and increases healthy lifestyle, solves problems, randomly imparts information
  • Verbal Communication: Phone or Face-to-Face electronic device and software- uses two senses, is usually planned now that we have caller ID and Zoom.
  • Written Communication: Letters, email, texts – one sided communication, using one sense only, informational, confirmational, and often legal, as in signing documents
  • Any or All Three Forms of Communication – electronic devices or face-to-face and written forms of nearly instant communication
    • Events – social celebrations
    • Meetings – used primarily to get things done. May be face to face, email, or by electronic device
    • Hobbies – seeks or provides expertise may be done alone or together, but eventually is usually shared
    • Reading – done alone, shared conversations in book chats both electronically and face to face. Stimulates the brain, increases experiences to include vicarious ones, expands the imagination, has the power to mobilize society
    • Writing (books) – has the power to mobilize society and now is much more interactive than books used to be.
    • Learning together – school, classes
    • Counseling
    • Recess and breaks for kids and adults
    • Social media
      • Blogging/Using Google Docs. – one sided to start, usually done alone, but may be collaborated nearly instantaneously, anticipates and writes to an audience which responds within a short time frame.
      • Platforms for different types of information sharing: Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, WhatsApp, Tumblr, Pinterest, Reddit, Constant Comment, YouTube, Tic Tok, Vimeo, Snapchat, Quora, SlideShare, Survey Monkey, Messenger, Spotify, Mail Chimp, and Yelp to name a few. Each app has its primary usage whether for newsletters, publishing videos, photos, podcasts, or slides, jobs, recipes, other products, music, services, or just to chat.

My WQW Choices for This Week: Parties, Meetings, Events, and Schools

Sunday Stills: Schools Teach Socializing Skills to Future Citizens of Our World

“Social support tends to alleviate the effects of stress.”

– J.B. Cohen

I ended my long career in education as an event planner, staff developer, and cognitive coach. I have spent the first ten years of my retirement learning a different set of skills – blogging, writing, and photography. Some of my most popular posts of all times, getting thousands of views are those in which I shared my professional knowledge. This year I hope to add value to my posts by including a snippet knowledge I’ve gained over the years that might be useful to my readers.

Classroom cooperative activity

Reducing stress is especially important to learn in education. It can be taught easily while teaching almost any other skill. Assigning projects and problems for children to solve and requiring them to work in groups and teaching them how to do that, will help them face their future with less stress. If one of the students doesn’t know the answer, or doesn’t have a skill needed, another student can help without calling the entire classes’ attention to the student. Anyone who is over 40 has probably had that uncomfortable and stressful experience in school at one time or another.

The teaching strategies that are useful here are: cooperative, project-based, or hands-on learning (assigning tasks) to help the children learn to work together and to help them assess their own work. Using wait time after asking a question. “Talk to your neighbor” – before the answer is revealed.

It is difficult to apply these social techniques in distance learning, but not impossible. To allow children chat time during a zoom meeting, gives somewhat the same benefit and is easier to monitor than in a face-to-face classroom. There are some platforms that allow students to chat even during face-to- face classroom sessions as well.

Veteran’s Day Event for Woodlake High School Students at Woodlake Memorial Building

“It’s all about being a part of something in the community, socializing with people who share interests and coming together to help improve the world we live in.”

– Zach Braff

Children will rise to the occasion when they have a reason for being problem solvers.

Parties and Meetings

“Telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to Hell.”

― Criss Jami, Killosophy

“Socializing is more positive than being alone, that’s why meetings are so popular. People don’t like being alone. That would be, however, an important skill to learn…”

― Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life
My surprise retirement party and the start of MY FUTURE.

Parties and meetings are two popular ways to socialize. Parties are almost always face to face, except blogging parties, which, like Story Chat, after being set up, take place in the comment section. Face to face parties usually include food and drinks to ease people into conversations. The four bloggers, Debbie – Deb’s World, Donna -Retirement Reflections, Jo – And Anyways, Sue – Living Well After Fifty have effectively combined blogging, Zooming and cooking together to make almost a face-to-face party.

California Council for the Social Studies (CCSS) Quarterly Meeting Icebreaker Activity

Meetings, unlike most parties can be face to face, by email, phone, Zoom or other digital networking program, walking with a friend or colleague, traveling together, or even while working on projects or hobbies together. Meetings are a time during which humans try to get something done together. Decisions and assignments are made, information is shared.

Social media is itself as temporary as any social gathering, nightclub or party. It’s the people that matter, not the venue. So, when the trend leaders of one social niche or another decide the place everyone is socializing has lost its luster or, more important, its exclusivity, they move on to the next one, taking their followers with them.

Douglas Rushkoff

Speakeasy bars, popular during the roaring 1920s faded from view when the depression hit in the late 1930s. Life was not so easy. They resurfaced again, but not with the vigor that they once had.

Social media will probably exist until the internet is replaced with a more advanced medium for communication. Just like snail mail still has a place in our lives today as it did in 1775 when Ben Franklin was appointed the first postmaster general. It is supplemented by other companies offering similar services, but the need to get written communication safely from one person or business to another still exists and will probably continue.

Breaking the Social Ice – Lesson #1 for Introverts

Just ask, “How’s your weather been?”

Other Challenges that Inspired WQW #2


CELL PIC SUNDAY
LENS ARTIST PHOTO CHALLENGE # 181 Double Dipping
SUNDAY STILLS
WEEKEND SKIES

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  1. This is so remarkable, Marsha!
    You have provided such an in-depth insight about socializing through this one post of yours. And thank you so much for sharing those lovely sky captures with my challenge.

    And now, I would like to answer your questions here, in a bit light mood 🙂

    Q. What happens if humans don’t socialize?
    A. We would the residents of one quiet giant rock then.

    Q. How does blogging fit into healthy socializing?
    A. Engaging up with people from all over the world, not just my town or city. Which I think is truly amazing.

    Q. Is socializing worth your time?
    A. Only if my schedule is okay with it 🙂

    Q. How much time does it take to socialize?
    A. Same amount of time required to change a light bulb I guess.

    Q. What are the benefits of socializing?
    A. Free treats but only if you had already given one 🙂

    Q. Ways to socialize
    A. Step out. Not just from our home but from that invisible bubble surrounding us as well.

    Q. Where and how to teach socialization
    A. I’m not to so good at it.

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  2. You have so much to offer here Marsha and i agree with your thoughts of communication. As an educator, in an adult correctional setting, we had to be very clear with our communication styles at all times. Thanks also for the shoutout, can’t wait to see our ‘interview’ with you 🙂

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    • Thanks, Deb. I am sure communication had to be super clear in a correctional setting. My stepson used to teach in a state correctional institution in CA. They closed it and put him in a different job. He said that the inmates would deliberately misuse his words. He was very careful what he told them, and nothing personal about himself.

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    • I was thrilled with how beautiful it was. You know how sometimes you just walk outside and it takes your breath away? That’s how the sky was that night. Thanks for stopping by, John. 🙂

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  3. Thought provoking and interesting post – well done, much work! I am a loner and always prefer walking on my own or with my dog. I am an only child too, and learned early in life to love playing alone in the forest or in the garden. Not until I started school I found friends to play with. I had a few close friends, and never developed a fancy for parties or many peopled gatherings. I don’t know how I found teaching my career and loved it for so many years – but I guess that is a lonely job as well. Getting to know my students was always the best treat, and guiding them to self esteem and freedom of thought. Communication, yes.

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  4. what a great theme for the week and so much to ponder (and your list of questions were comprehensive)
    and my top takeaway:

    “It’s the people that matter, not the venue.”
    even though sometimes the venue can make or break the success of the socializing

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    • How true that statement is and it gets me thinking about teachers and the venues they create. I was very good – too good really – at creating a venue in which the children liked to socialize. On the other hand, they made friends that lasted a lifetime. What a joy they were to get to know.

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  5. This is gold, Marsha, and as I shared this post to my FB page (connections+socialization=human!). You cover a lot of territory here. As we were transitioning in 2020 to move, two significant events happened in my life as a result of the pandemic that led to us being able to move without regret: windsurf season at the delta was abbreviated and many chose not to camp and having to teach my beloved college classes online. The lack of socializing sadly resulted in lost connections and few sad goodbyes. The face-to-face socializing that took place during these important activities for years was sorely missed. I found blogging to be a way to connect as I know countless others who did as well. Thank you for connecting to Sunday Stills my educator friend. YOU are an incredible educator, even “retired” as you strive to make online connections and I’m sure those physical ones in your new community. I will find a way to connect my SS post (color challenge white) in my snow globe world (maybe a hint?)…thanks as always for your inspiration and amazing posts, my friend!

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  6. Hi, Marsha – I agree with the other commenters, this is a very thoughtful and thought-provoking post. Thank you for the shoutout. Sue, Debbie, Jo and I look forward to the release of our interview with you. One small correction, What’s On Your Plate is the brainchild of Deb, The Widow Badass. She and I cohost that linkparty together.

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  7. You’ve surely covered a lot of ground with this one Marsha! First, thanks for double-dipping with us (or would it be triple or quadruple dipping?! 😊). Most of those who know me would argue vociferously but I am very much an introvert. I have many good friends and we are very social with meetings, parties, dinners, golf, book clubs etc. But my preferred day is either alone or with my husband, or walking with a single good friend. I overcome my loner inclinations because I recognize the importance of socialization. A very long time ago a good friend and I talked about how to be social. His advice has served me well these many years. Just ask someone about THEIR life and what’s going on with them and socializing become far easier. Hard to believe that my introverted personality made a successful career in sales and sales management but I’ve relied on that advice my entire life and it’s served me very well. In sales I always tried to empathize with my customers and address what was important to them. That works in our personal lives as well. Even tho I’d still prefer to be alone with a good book LOL! thanks for the excellent food for thought this week!

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    • I think we are much alike, Tina. It sometimes surprises me when someone comments that I am shy of quiet because I don’t think most people see me that way now. My grandma always said the way to make friends is to be a friend. Since both my parents and my grandma were only children, they all knew how to make friends. Nonetheless we all spent many lovely hours with good books! Thanks for the fabulous comment.

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Hi, I'm Marsha Ingrao, a retired educator and wife of a retired realtor. My all-consuming hobby is blogging and it has changed my life. My friends live all over the world. In November 2020, we sold everything and retired to the mile-high desert of Prescott, AZ. We live less than five miles from the Granite Dells, four lakes, and hundreds of trails with our dog, Kalev, and two cats, Moji and Nutter Butter. Vince's sister came with us and lives close by. Every day is a new adventure.

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