Terri from Second Wind Leisure chose purple as her Sunday Stills monthly color challenge. The pictures also work for Cee’s Flower of the Day Challenge. There are more #BrightSquares for Becky today. Finally, Sadje has asked this wonderful question, “Are you a good listener?” for her Poser #24. which I will try to weave into my flower pictures.

Are You a Good Listener?

“When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”

Ernest Hemingway

As a cognitive coach for the County Office of Education, I learned and practiced the skills of good listening. Lean forward towards the person talking, mirror their movements like crossing and uncrossing arms and legs. If they are tense, lean back and give them space. When in doubt, repeat their words to validate them. Don’t offer an opinion or story. Listening is not about ME!

Why are you listening? Are you conducting a therapy session and you want to make your client better? Do you love the person you are listening to and want to validate them? Do you want information from them to use against them in a court of law? Are your trying to learn something for a test or gather material for your next novel? I would argue that everyone has a motive for listening.

Listening and remembering are two different skills, but one augments the other. If you can’t remember, what good does it do you to listen carefully? If you listen carefully, AND have a poor memory, then you should take steps to help your memory.

You may wonder how I tie listening to purple flowers.

Australian Florals

Agapanthus for Becky B;s #BrightSquare

Carol and I strolled through many gardens together. One of my favorites was the Treasury Garden in Melbourne. Everywhere we looked, Carol had more information for me – names of flowers, trees, buildings, birds, bodies of water, statues. I admit that sometimes my mind took a vacation, but my lapses always caught up with me and sold me short when I needed information.

She took some beautiful pictures of bird of paradise, then wandered off and found this agapanthus. But here is the problem. I kept notes, but not great ones, mostly pictorial. Now the only records I have are in my earlier posts about Australia. My posts were not precise about every item we saw. Why? Either I didn’t listen or didn’t retain what my Australian friends told me.

My Listening Score: 2.5 out of 5. I gave myself credit for writing it as a caption on my photo from 2016.

After Melbourne, we flew to Ballarat and visited the historical part of the city known as, Sovereign Hill. At one of the vintage houses we saw these beautiful “spikey purple plants,” as another blogger called them.

I may have asked Carol or her sister-in-law, what they were, but three months later when I wrote the first post about them, I did not know what they were. But the answer is in Google or Bing if you look hard enough. It was also right under my nose at the Woodlake Botanical Garden also on file in my WordPress media file.

My Listening Score: .5 out of 5. I gave myself little credit because if I did hear it, I didn’t write it down or look it up so I would remember it later.

Artichoke plant

My Listening Score to Manuel: 1 out of 5. I recognized the picture on Bing and knew I had an artichoke.

Purple in Prescott, AZ

Finally, back to the here and now in Prescott. My neighbor has been spraying what she calls “vincas” like they were invasive enemy #1. They might be. They are not like the vincas, also known as periwinkles, I remember from California. Bing had pictures of vinca major that look like my back yard where these pictures were taken.

Listening Score: 5 out of 5 So far both short-term memory and listening skills are working.

They seem too beautiful and delicate for be attacked as an invader.

California Purple Monsters

Violet, purple
California has it all
Not to be left out!

Morning Glory plants win the prize for both beauty and killing roses. Puppy Girl enjoys the shade provided by the Morning Glory tee pee built by Manuel Jimenez, the founder of the Botanical Garden in Woodlake

Listening Score to Manuel and my friend Sylvia who told me about Morning Glory 35 years ago: 5 out of 5.

I gave myself extra credit for remembering a factoid for over 35 years.

This picture also qualifies as a #BrightSquare

Another beautiful invasive species that I planted all over my yard in California is the Mexican Petunia. Even when you think they are dead sticks, they are working on their rhizomes, “a continuously growing horizontal underground stem which puts out lateral shoots and adventitious roots at intervals.” Wikipedia. Our home buyers may love them, but if they don’t, it will be difficult to get rid of them.

Listening Score 3 out of 5. I still want to call them Mexican pansies.

Closing Comments

Have a great week and a good memory.


84 responses to “Sunday Stills: Purple Flowers from Arizona, Australia and California”

  1. wideeyedwanderingspoonie Avatar

    Oh my, I love the way you tied listening in! I am guilty of lots of “not enough note taking” and, let’s face it my memory isn’t getting any better. I’m going through my travel shots and listing, if nothing else, where and when. 🙂

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      That helps, then at least you can look them up, both your own files and information on the internet. It’s hard to remember on the spot what all you saw, and reading about it afterwards makes more sense as you tie your impressions and vague memories to facts. Thanks for the comment. 🙂

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  2. Amy Avatar

    That is a beautiful puple series from AZ to CA, Marsha. So much going on in your life now, you still find time to post and blog. Amazing.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      My husband thinks blogging is my full time job. I’m getting a little dizzy. But it’s a good dizzy. 🙂

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      1. Amy Avatar

        Take easy, Marsha. 🙂

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Thanks, Amy.

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  3. Leya Avatar

    I love purple – these are all wonderful, Marsha! And different. Artichokes are great, but don’t go that well over here. A good listener – well, I think I am. Having teaching as a profession for many years I have to be good at listening too. What I find difficult is listening to the meningless babble going on during election time. Some politicians just cannot, or will not, stick to facts and what is of importance. Wishing you a great week!

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Yes, as a teacher, we have to be good listeners for hours on end and it’s a good time to teach children to speak up and speak clearly and to listen to each other. I agree with you on listening to meaningless babble. Blah, blah, blah. I just turn them off. Thanks for visiting Leya. I’ve been so swamped this month, hosting Sunday Stills for three weeks, participating in Becky’s Squares every day, hosting Story Chat and Writer’s Quotes Wednesdays and having my computer out for over a week! I think I will be back on my regular routine in a week. I wish you the best week ever. 🙂

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      1. Leya Avatar

        Marsha – I don’t know how you do it…I can barely manage myself these days…

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          I’m not sure I am managing very well. My husband thinks all I do is blog! 🙂

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          1. Leya Avatar

            Haha, well, I think he might have a point there…

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            And then one day she just stopped.

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  4. pattimoed Avatar

    What beautiful flowers, Marsha. The colors are marvelous.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thank you, Patti. I love your LAPC post this week! You have had some diverse flying experiences!

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      1. pattimoed Avatar

        Yes, thank goodness I found them in my archives since I don’t have many bird images!!

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          I don’t either. Birds have never been my go to. It’s so much easier to photograph things that don’t move and are bigger. 🙂

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  5. Cee Neuner Avatar

    Beautiful flowers Marsha. 😀 😀

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks, Cee. I have thousands of flower pictures. They are one of my favorite subjects. 🙂

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  6. JohnRH Avatar

    Purple is as purple does! Love the bee!!!

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks, John. The bee is having a buzzingly good time.

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  7. Tina Schell Avatar

    You are surely one busy woman Marsha! Loved your purples today. I was amazed when I visited Australia at how different their flowers are versus ours. Those protea were among the prettiest things I’ve ever seen! Thanks for the mention this week.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Blogging can consume me sometimes. I am trying to find some good flight photos. Your post is lovely as it always is. Your posts are always as deep as they are beautiful. I admire that in photographers. It’s part of my photo-journalism background.

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      1. Tina Schell Avatar

        Thanks Marsha! It can definitely eat up some hours for sure! I know there are those who just look at the images but I always feel the story is just as important.

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          It shows in your work, Tina. It’s fun to learn something along the way, or be inspired.

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  8. Norah Avatar

    Pretty in purple.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Purple is a gorgeous color for flowers. Not so much for me.

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      1. Norah Avatar

        What’s your favourite? Blue is my favourite, so greens and purples come next. 🙂

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          The greens are coming up. I have a few purple for you, too, Norah. 🙂

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  9. Siva jyothi Avatar

    Stunning lavender flowers.. I never seen like this lavender flowers 💯😍awesome

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks, we can grow artichokes in the California Central Valley, though I don’t think it’s a major product. I had never seen one until I went to Australia, then our friend, the botanist gave us some tiny plants to put in our garden. I did not research them well, and planted them too close to the house. They grow into huge plants. 🙂

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      1. Siva jyothi Avatar

        It@s stunning garden …appreciate for your pretty blossoms

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Thanks so much.

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  10. BeckyB Avatar

    ah but there were so many others things to remember on your travels – and I think to remember where you were and who you were with is a huge plus. So maybe it is more about remembering than listening

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      LOL, probably. Yes, traveling with an expert on so many topics in a totally new place is a tax on the memory. But we had a fabulous time together. We’ve been blogging friends for about nine years, I think, and it still amazes me that we met up once, let alone three times. Crossing the Pacific is a huge commitment! 🙂

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      1. BeckyB Avatar

        that’s so amazing – kindred souls

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Yes, and as I scrolled down, the next comment was from her. 🙂

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  11. the eternal traveller Avatar

    You need a secretary to keep notes for you.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      LOL. At the time, I had a live encyclopedia sitting across from me who could answer all my questions. Now, four years later, she’s 14 hours away! I don’t know what happened to my journal in the move. I’m sick about it. All that vocabulary! Actually most of the vocabulary I’ve internalized, but not the names of stuff. So I get a 5 out of 5 on Aussie words! Thank goodness for Google for the plants. 🙂 And thank goodness I took pictures of signs along the way. 🙂

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      1. the eternal traveller Avatar

        Your journal will turn up one day when you’re looking for something else.

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          LOL There are boxes and boxes of books that are sitting in Cindy’s garage. We don’t have space for them. I went down from 4 bookcases to 2.

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          1. the eternal traveller Avatar

            I bet it’s in there.

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  12. I. J. Khanewala Avatar

    Great purples this time

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks, I.J. 🙂

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  13. Miriam Hurdle Avatar

    Lovely purple flowers, Marsha! One of my favorite colors!

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Mine too, in flowers! 🙂

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      1. Miriam Hurdle Avatar

        I know, Marsha, not this shade of purple in clothing. 🙂

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Not on me, at least not looking good. 🙂

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          1. Miriam Hurdle Avatar

            I’m shy to wear bright colors. I don’t think they look good on me. 🙂

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            Miriam, you are so cute, anything would look good on you.

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          3. Miriam Hurdle Avatar

            You made me laugh, Marsha. It reminds me of a friend who said she didn’t want to be a cloth hanger!!

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          4. Marsha Avatar

            Well, I don’t want to be a cloth hanger, either! 🙂

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  14. Sadje Avatar

    You’re doing well in the listening department most of the time. Retaining the information is not always easy. Thanks for linking to my post.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I know how to listen, Sadje. Meetings frustrate me when one person hogs the conversation. Sometimes that person is me, and that is super embarrassing. I get antsy and interrupt if I get excited about a topic. If I’m bored during a meeting, then I tend not to listen. Teachers and administrators typically go to a lot of meetings. That’s one reason I like writing and blogging because if I have an idea about a topic, I can spell it out uninterrupted. Then if someone wants to read it, great. If not, they don’t have to sit through my boring monologue. 🙂

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      1. Sadje Avatar

        Meetings are a whole different ballgame. I like wearing too. One can get the point across succinctly.

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Yes, they are but they are part of the listening concept. We listen for a lot of different purposes, and we do it with varying degrees of success. It’s amazing how much we use our ears.

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          1. Sadje Avatar

            Yes, it is amazing and how much we learn.

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            Thanks again, Sadje. I hope I’ll see you on Wednesday. My take on nutrition is less than reliable. 🙂

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          3. Sadje Avatar

            You’re welcome! I am looking forward to your post

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          4. Marsha Avatar

            Thanks, I just finished it today! I’m actually starting to really enjoy the challenge, and I’m so glad you are doing it with me.

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          5. Sadje Avatar

            You’re welcome 😉

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  15. Lisa Coleman Avatar

    Love purple flowers! Purple is my favorite color. 🙂

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I didn’t know that. Purple flowers are breathtaking! 🙂

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      1. Lisa Coleman Avatar

        Marsha, I write with a purple pen most of the time. LOL! 🙂

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          You are a purple girl. Mine is turquoise or burgundy but I have lots of colors. 🙂

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          1. Lisa Coleman Avatar

            I love the color spectrum so I’m an “all kinds of color” kind of gal, but purple is my go to. I love turquoise too. That certainly is a main color where you live. 🙂

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            It really is along with coral. No wonder I love this place! 🙂

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          3. Lisa Coleman Avatar

            Yep and those were the pantone colors of the year a few years ago. 🙂

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          4. Marsha Avatar

            Interesting, I’d never heard the term pantone colors. I had to look it up. 🙂

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          5. Lisa Coleman Avatar

            It is my world of design. Guess we need that weekly vocabulary list. Test the following week. 😂

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          6. Marsha Avatar

            LOL! Thank goodness for Google. 🙂

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          7. Lisa Coleman Avatar

            We need a prayer rug! LOL! Frank & I were talking about the books on our shelves and getting rid of some. He wants to keep all these books he sold back in the day. “why” I asked. “Because I might want to reference them”. I feel the same way about all my Titanic books. Honestly, what do you think we are going to do? Google it! So the dilemma remains. What to get rid of. 🙂

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          8. Marsha Avatar

            Amen to that, Lisa. I went from four large bookcases to two. I got rid of my old teaching manuals because I am not going to use them again, even for research. I don’t like to write about teaching when I’m not in the trenches. So that still left a million books! I was going to get rid of my Tulare County books because I thought they would be better used in Tulare County. I never got around to donating them, and I’m so glad. I still use them to look up facts that I couldn’t find on Google. 🙂

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          9. Lisa Coleman Avatar

            🙂 Good thing you kept those books. I don’t know if I can depart with a lot of my books, but maybe. Just not quite there and the funny thing was, he brought it up and when we started thinking on it, he’s like “I want to keep these and these and these…that’s only 2 shelves. LOL!

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          10. Marsha Avatar

            It’s so easy to accumulate. Some books I use over and over. Others I never have cracked open. 🙂

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          11. Lisa Coleman Avatar

            Sounds familiar! 🙂

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  16. Terri Webster Schrandt Avatar

    I love how you tied listening skills into your violet 💜 florals, Marsha! When traveling it is important to take notes in some way to remember the details in images. But when you’re having fun with people, this doesn’t happens much. When I walked around the Hawaiian botanical gardens with Graham in Hilo, I was lucky to snap the signs next to each floral and grab a brochure. I bet you listened to the fun conversations you were having though. Those vincas are pretty, reminds me of my mom 💜

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      You are so right. I did take notes, and I can’t find my journal. I haven’t looked in Google Docs, but I had a physical journal that I took notes in. GONE! Like poor Lisa’s 2,000 photos on her card! That would make me sick beyond belief.

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  17. 100 Country Trek Avatar

    Beautiful purple flowers 💜

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks, Trekkie. How are you? I didn’t see your link.

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