#WQWWC # 10 How Important Is Respect and Courtesy in Life? @ColleenChesebro @Forestwoodfolk @Charli_Mills

#WQWWC # 10 Respect, Courtesy

Definition: Respect: a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements. Due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others.

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If you treat people with dignity, respect and friendliness, you can turn enemies into friends. An enemy is nothing but a friend in disguise

Ted Turner

My Response to This Quote

Here’s a quote that I like and have found to be true in most instances, though not everyone will forgive you if you don’t treat them with respect even if you apologize (and MEAN it). It is tough to associate with people whom you don’t respect, but it has to be done. Usually I can find some part of the person’s character or actions to respect.

When I insult someone with my lack of respect, I step back and try to see things from their point of view, but it doesn’t always work. If I’m not being too stubborn, my best course of action is to apologize if I feel I am wrong, with sincerity, courtesy and friendliness. I take steps to amend my ways so that I don’t repeat the offense. Sometimes it takes years before the rightness of their view or wrongness of mine hits me. Years later I usually will concede that their offense or view did not warrant my bad behavior.

When someone has shown that they don’t respect me, I don’t berate them (at least to their face – that’s what my journal is for. I’m not into fist fights) Rarely do I try to change their opinion. I simply avoid them. 

My argument with this quote is that if you really don’t respect a person, why would you want to try to  turn them into a friend? 

The Author of the Quote

Sometimes I find quotes, but don’t know too much about the person who said it. Take Ted Turner, for example. He’s a household name. Here are some facts that I didn’t know about Ted that make me look stupider than dirt, or sadly disinterested. 

He’s a philanthropist from Georgia whose father left him one million dollars before committing suicide. Ted took that one million, founded CNN and TBS, bought the Atlanta Braves, and the World Wrestling Championship Wrestling and made many other major investments. By the beginning of the pandemic Turner was worth 2.1 billion dollars after he gave away billions of dollars over the years to his worthwhile causes.

But there must be more to Ted than his bottom line. He’s been married and divorced three times and has five children. He seems to thrive on controversy and competition. He and Fox News owner, Rupert Murdock had a running battle full of angry words. “In 2003, Turner challenged Murdoch to another fistfight…” According to the article in Wikipedia, he said that things changed in 2019 and that they were friendly. That’s a pretty long grudge.

Turner was expelled from college, but nearly thirty years later received an honorary degree from his Alma Mater. He was “suspended for one year by Commissioner of Baseball Bowie Kuhn on January 3, 1977, for his actions…” None of that slowed him down. He has received at least seventeen prestigious awards since 1984. In my opinion he would have been an expert candidate for a quote about persistence, WQWWC #7.

Turner hasn’t always been respectful and courteous. It was reported in the New York Times that he “once called observers of Ash Wednesday ‘Jesus freaks’ and Christianity as a ‘religion for losers…’ and dubbed opponents of abortion ‘bozos.’” He later apologized and donated money through various church organizations to fight malaria. I don’t know if Christians or the churches that represented them forgave him and accepted his apology, but some of them accepted his money. I also don’t know if he changed his opinion about Christianity.

Most people respect someone who has been successful in their life, and Ted Turner has demonstrated that he knows how to make things happen. If you respect only those who respect others, or even limit your respect to those who respect you, you might not choose to quote Ted Turner on the topic of respect.

I’ll leave that decision to you.

Other Quotes About Respect

One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.

Bryant H. McGill

Keep in mind that the true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him absolutely no good.

Ann Landers

The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all others, charity.

Benjamin Franklin

“Respect for ourselves guides our morals, respect for others guides our manners.”

Laurence Sterne

Check Out This Post from Last Week’s Topic, Trustworthiness

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I look forward to reading what you have to say on the subject. Talk to me! 


62 responses to “#WQWWC # 10 How Important Is Respect and Courtesy in Life? @ColleenChesebro @Forestwoodfolk @Charli_Mills”

  1. Forestwood Avatar

    Highly topical at the moment given what is happening in Australian politics.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      I think it’s politics everywhere, Amanda. We actually had a sermon last week on politics and respect – bringing it down to the politics we all have in our own families. It was pretty interesting.

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      1. Forestwood Avatar

        It had been on the increase Marsha. Young privileged, well-educated men who see porn on the internet at a young age and think that particular portayal and treatment of women is the norm, rather than aberrant.

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Wow, Are we fixable as a world, Amanda? It’s not just Australia.

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          1. Forestwood Avatar

            Yes, I believe so. it just takes a long time. The pendulum swings between tight and lose cultures th world over and seem to naturally correct itself given time and human inclination to do so. The internet can be used for good but also for things that are not so good. Given time, we shall manage technology better.

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            I hope you are right. I wonder if this year has helped or hurt us. Parents had more control over their children and what they did online, possibly, but there was no overall culturalization going on in schools teaching kids how to use the internet safely.

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          3. Forestwood Avatar

            When a young child tries to swipe the pages of a book like one would a smartphone or ipad, and infants pushed along in strollers stare at cellphones instead of playing with a rattle or toy, then I think education on safe internet use has to start very early at home. They seem to learn so early all kinds of ways around the usual controls.

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          4. Marsha Avatar

            That’s so weird, isn’t it? What the pandemic did very effectively was to take away the influence of grandparents except in some rare cases.

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          5. Forestwood Avatar

            That is a good point, Marsha. The extended family support has many benefits that cannot always be translated via zoom.

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          6. Marsha Avatar

            Yes, and we lost it this year for the most part. Yet if the family time we gained made up for it, it’s a gain in the end, but I don’t know. Such a weird year. We won’t know the impact for 20 years or more when historians and statisticians start to analyze the data. So for now, we roll with the punches and stay safe and healthy and make ends meet the best we can.

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          7. Forestwood Avatar

            That is the way to approach it!

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          8. Marsha Avatar

            This is a subject for the ages. It fits the name of your blog perfectly, Amanda! Something to Ponder About indeed! 🙂

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          9. Forestwood Avatar

            Thanks for saying that Marsha. There sure is lots to ponder about. I love your WQWWC.

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          10. Marsha Avatar

            Thank, you, Amanda. I need that encouragement. I wondered if people just didn’t like it. I want to make it as easy for people to participate as I can. 🙂

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  2. Colleen M. Chesebro Avatar

    Brilliant! I loved the quote, your commentary and thoughts, and the added links. You are a star, Marsha! ❤

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Awwww, thanks, Colleen. It is not taking off like I thought it might as a challenge, but I enjoy doing it anyway. Any advice?

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      1. Colleen M. Chesebro Avatar

        I think it might help to just post the challenge- find a quote with blank theme. Then, write your post and link back to it. See if that works. ❤️

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          So just post the quote, not the topic?

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          1. Colleen M. Chesebro Avatar

            I don’t remember how I used to do it. Try a few things and see what works. Maybe you should change it to a photo challenge? Nothing wrong wrong with that. It will be slow. People are tired of being inside, I think. ❤️

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            Thanks for the encouragement, Colleen. I will quit worrying about the response so much and settle in and enjoy the challenge. It’s interesting that I get a lot of comments and opinions but no posts. I like the idea of a photo challenge. You are a dear.

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          3. Colleen M. Chesebro Avatar

            Sometimes it’s just not right for us. You love photography… do that. Who knows… maybe I can join in on that once in awhile. ❤

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          4. Marsha Avatar

            Thanks, but I totally get how busy you are. When I was writing, everything else fell by the wayside.

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          5. Colleen M. Chesebro Avatar

            Yes, but a photo prompt is so you. How about they share a photo and find a quote to go with the photo???

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          6. Marsha Avatar

            Now there is an idea. I do love including photos with my writing. It’s my junior high school journalism training, I guess. I’m still a reporter more than a literary person, I think. Even when I’m writing fiction, I’m not spinning tales, I’m reporting them, chronologically.

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          7. Colleen M. Chesebro Avatar

            You’ll ding something that fits you perfectly. ❤️

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          8. Marsha Avatar

            Thanks for the encouragement, Colleen.

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          9. Colleen M. Chesebro Avatar

            Always, my friend. ❤

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          10. Marsha Avatar

            hugs! xxx

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  3. smilingtoad Avatar

    “I don’t berate them (at least to their face – that’s what my journal is for. I’m not into fist fights)”–You do know I immediately imagined your face merged with James Dean’s from “Rebel Without a Cause,” do you not? Going at it in front of the observatory, a good old fashioned scrape. I really should take up cartooning…perhaps not, I’d make more friends in disguise that way, I suspect…

    Grins aside, excellent words of thought and wisdom. Wonderful quotations and fascinating information about Turner. Cheers

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks, Autty. You perk me up and make me look better than I am. Yay! So tomorrow’s post, I haven’t written yet, but it is Women’s History Month, so I’m thinking the Suffrage movement. What is more citizenshippy than voting, right? Do you really think it’s working for us now? I’m not so sure. We get to vote, but in CA we didn’t get to choose our candidate in the primary because everyone had dropped out except the front runners. I felt robbed. But maybe that’s just me. I’d better not go off the deep end on this one.:) But I think that’s my topic anyway.

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  5. Lisa Bradshaw Avatar

    I suppose you can respect certain behaviour of people or certain achievements but you don’t have to like them.. 😉

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      That is true, Lisa. I think it is especially true when someone is so well known. No one is perfect, but a famous person’s imperfections are all out in the public eye. I would not like being that famous! 🙂

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  6. dgkaye Avatar

    Loved this idea of finding a quote and discussing. And enjoyed learning a bit of background on Ted’s life. Don’t forget, he was also married to Jane Fonda :). So, I’m a bit confused at what the challenge is since this post is so chock full of goodies. The title of the post mentions names. I’m not sure what those names were related to the content? What am I missing? Lol. Also, about respect, I’m like you. I don’t need confrontration, they’ve showed me who they are. I will silently slither away. ❤

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      LOL No wonder I love you so much! The challenge is to find your own quote about respect and write whatever you want to about it. Post it on your site and link to my post for that week. I did find out that he was married to Jane Fonda and wanted to run for President, but she threatened to leave him if he did. She left anyway.

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      1. dgkaye Avatar

        LOL right? Yes, I don’t remember why she left, but she did stay with him for quite awhile. You are so funny! ❤

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Wouldn’t that have been funny if he had run against Donald instead of Hillary? Such a bunch of narcissists!!! 🙂

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  7. Terri Webster Schrandt Avatar

    I’m reading this early Friday morning trying to articulate what respect means to me, Marsha. But first, congrats on getting your vaccine! Do you already have your AZ ID yet? Or did you need one? It will be a while before we are eligible. My respect for the building industry is questionable now as we wait for something else to be done. This time we wait for electrical to be connected to the pedestal that took 3 weeks to be placed on the property. Basically, nothing happened in January to the house other than the pedestal and the water line trenched. Sigh. It might be covid slowing things down. Meanwhile, life in the RV is not bad at all. I have immense respect for the young staff who keep this RV park running!

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  8. Forestwood Avatar

    Respect – it is critical to relationships and very topical atm. eg. social justice #blacklivesmatter and especially in the political arena. The definition of respect is closely aligned with empathy and I think those who are deemed disrepectful are lacking in that area.
    Regarding making enemies into friends: I think this is great advice for your own energy levels and sanity. In a way it is a selfish act, as it is much better for our own selves if we are kind and forgiving, than to rile ourselves up with frustration and hate for another person. Considering that the other, ( that enemy ), is on a journey too. One that is perhaps so very diverse from your own can help facilitate acceptance of an enemy. With acceptance comes respect. Being respectful to enemies fosters self-dignity and in time, some common ground with the enemy may emerge.
    Great thought- provoking post, Marsha.

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Very good points, Amanda. I was challenged by what I read about Ted Turner and some of his remarks. He had a quick tongue that often lashed out, yet he seemed to prize good feelings between himself and others when he cooled down. It all made me think. Respect is not a glib response we give to someone. It develops over time. We insult and are insulted by our friends, but our respect for each other covers us and we do more than say a quick sorry. It takes some action and sometimes quite a bit of it to mend fences even with close friends, but it is well worth the time we spend. For an enemy, the process would be much more time consuming.

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      1. Forestwood Avatar

        We can say a quick sorry amongst friends or for a minor transgression because we value so much more that relationship/friendship. We realise a small disagreement is not worth losing the friend as there is much to enjoy about being with each other. When it is an enemy, it lacks that “glue.”

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Yes. I think I used to try a lot harder with enemies than I do now. And by enemies, I’m not sure I mean people that had it in for me, but grumpy people. I used to see them as a special challenge. And it was my job to cheer them up and make them sunny. Sometimes I succeeded beyond my wildest expectations, but I have know a few failures, too. There are just so many nice, cheerful adorable people in the world, that I tend to spend more time with them – especially being online. has broadened my sphere of friends, and lessened my time for grumpy, uncooperative people.

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          1. Forestwood Avatar

            Grumpy uncooperative people may be a special challenge and it is lovely if you can cajole them into a better mood. At the end of the day though, we can’t rescue everyone all the time so they have to take resposibility for their mood whatever the cause and address that themselves. Broadening one’s sphere of friends, I think is always a good thing. You get to widen your viewpoint by being exposed to differing perspectives and thoughts. We can always learn something new from someone.

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            Well, mine has certainly gotten a lot broader since I started blogging and I’m sure yours has too, Amanda. Speaking of friends, do you know Maria Perez? If so, do you know what she’s doing?

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          3. Forestwood Avatar

            No I don’t know Maria, by that name. What is her blog name?

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          4. Marsha Avatar

            Sew Inspired. I remember her mentioning a blogger named Amanda Mac, and I thought it might be you. Just curious.

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          5. Forestwood Avatar

            Sounds familiar. I will have to look into it.

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          6. Marsha Avatar

            I’m so excited. I just check my source, Networking Blogger, and voila, I found YOU! Long story, I’ll message you.

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  9. Cindy Georgakas Avatar

    wonderful quotes and pictures Marsha!!!! ❤️

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thanks, Cindy. I’m sitting at a vacant Sears store after my COVID-19 vaccination. It was so easy. I scheduled it yesterday and now I’m done for a month.

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      1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar

        Oh wow!!! good for you! beware of the pain in the neck for a few days but should be good after that! ❤️

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          There is a slight pain in my right arm. That is all.

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          1. Cindy Georgakas Avatar

            Maybe that’s all you will get! ❤️🙏

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          2. Marsha Avatar

            That’s it! Almost gone now. 🙂

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      2. Frank @ Beach Walk Reflections Avatar

        Hooray … I’m scheduled for dose 1 this coming Monday!

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        1. Marsha Avatar

          Yay! It was super easy. My arm is a little sore, but I haven’t taken anything for it.

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  11. Frank @ Beach Walk Reflections Avatar

    All of us have an endless list of respect, but here are a couple that came to my mind as I read your thoughts. I chuckled when I think of an elder teacher during my early years. As we would talk about situations with other staff or administrators, he would say, “Kill them with kindness.” I also thought about my college marching band director, a man who we respected so much that we feared him – not wanting to get on his bad side – yet we knew he would do anything for us. What a person! Lastly, I think about my readers. Readers that gave me so many wonderful comments, I created two posts (so far) with their words – not mine. My task was gathering the comments and fusing them together into something coherent. So, I summit the first and invite your readers to stop by. https://beachwalkreflections.wordpress.com/2021/02/02/36-beaches-v1/

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    1. Marsha Avatar

      Thank you for the wonderful comment, Frank. I love the fact that you remember your teachers. I remember some of my junior high school teachers, Mrs. Shockley, who taught cooking and sewing. I got in trouble for talking, if you can believe that. I remember and English teacher in 7th grade and my journalism teacher all through junior high school. He was the scary type that you respected out of fear, but also out of how much you learned. Thanks for sharing and for sharing your post with us. 🙂 Maybe that was the pingback. I was surprised to see it in your comments. How do those things work anyway? I thought I understood them, but maybe not! 🙂

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