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This is a short post  (Quit saying YEAH!!!) because I spent my night surfing and reading blogs, old and new.   But I’ve been pondering this recently.

When does friendship start?

You click on my blog and press like?

Is that what it takes?


I read and follow, and you come back.

We exchange a comment.

Are we friends yet?


We share an  X or O

Or maybe a 🙂 or two.

Has that sparked the cord?


I pour out my heart in a post,

And you stop by to say you understand.

Is that the start?


Is it random?

Is it planned?

Is it ever the same from one person to the next?


Why do some love me, and others…

never come back?

Why do I feel connected?


Is it the pictures?

Are words alive?

Is it the words you share with others?


I don’t have the answers.

I just know.

That some of you just touch the realest part of me.


It’s not that others are bad.

It’s not that they don’t try.

It’s not that you try harder, or longer.


It just happens over and over again.

One minute I’ve never heard of you.

And the next one – you’re my friend.







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    • Yes, I was thinking of you among the ones that just click. All the more amazing when you think that we are just sharing words and pictures, and yet something like 75% of communication comes through non-verbal. Do you think that in some cases, we get the non-verbal somehow? For example, I always picture you smiling. 🙂


      • Beautiful!! I am so glad you two have clicked this way. Had to reply here, Marsha, as I so have a whole animated, vitative, vivid character in my mind that I imagine whenever we exchange words, and it is very groovy indeed. Sir even has an idea about your voice and presented it to me and I thought it sounded about right- now if only you could have seen his performance. 😉 He also has voices imagined for the cats if they were human, but I won’t go into that, you might think he’s batty har har haw


        • Autty, I can’t imagine life without you, now!! I would love to hear Sir’s imitation of me. I’ve been thinking about doing a recording of something. I’m just not sure what I’d do. Maybe if Sir could give me a few tips!!! hahahaha 🙂 Marsha 🙂


  1. Hey ‘woman who wears brown’, this was a nice post because it dips into the vibe of trust that we use to talk about in the office. I think the flip side would be why are friendships lost and what causes some friends to remain friends even after years of non-communication? Love your posts even though I don’t comment on them. Keep up the writing and philosophical musings! Ciao


    • Hey JJ, are you Italian now? CIAO???? Yes, you are right, but how does that trust develop when we can only use words and pictures. I have some new blogging friends that I am quickly growing very fond of (pardon the preposition), and I most likely will never meet them, nor them me, but yet, I think that trust still develops. So, my scientist friend, I ask for your expertise in that matter. How does that happen? Is it magic? Thanks for reading my blog, Jennifer. ‘preciate the comment!!! 🙂 ML


  2. Yeah, it’s like that….!
    It would seem that though our ‘friendship’ is young, I want to return. That doesn’t happen with everyone who comes visiting…! With some we ‘click’, with others ‘not so much’….!
    Oh well, you just have to do what feels right…! 🙂


    • That’s so true, Carolyn. I’m just puzzled to know, with the limited resources we have, why it happens. It just does!! Thanks for feeding our young friendship. I’ll look forward to more times together!! Marsha 🙂


    • Hi SC,
      Thanks, so much. I was honored when I visited last night and found my name on your blog in the sidebar. Thank YOU for being a friend. It is an amazing thing isn’t it? 🙂 Marsha


  3. One minute I’ve never heard of you.
    And the next one – you’re my friend
    Well said, Marsha. I appreciate the connectivity that allows to befriend.


  4. Found this entry very touching, what a beautiful poem I so relate to. I am so glad to have stumbled onto the glorious glittering landscapes that comprise your blog. I consider you a dear friend indeed, a friend well met. Well, you might have guessed that after I started naming my precious toadly companions after you- a grand honour, I should think- (Marsha Lee Toadie). I am truly grateful, indeed,

    Autumn Jade


    • I am honored. Imagine having a toad named after lil ole me! I can’t wait to meet Marsha Lee Toadie. You’ll have to send me a picture I can post on my blog!!! hahahaha So much fun knowing you Smiling! Seriously! I laugh out loud when I read your posts! 🙂


  5. Of course, with the human brain being so pattern-oriented, I am sure there are little things that one instantly recognises, a phrase, the lay-out, the presentation, the way a photo is taken- but then there is energy too in writing itself. Your writing has such a positive and inviting energy. A lot of your wonderful personality comes through, and it feels like one is in conversation with you in the warm incandescent glow of a cafe, the smell of coffee in the air, and the sound of laughter- a whole experience rather than just reading words on a screen, it feels that real. And I loooove that. It really is peculiar, fascinating, wonderful.


    • Oh I love you! You make me sound so wonderful. Can I bottle you up and wear you as perfume? I love smelling like coffee and glowing like a cafe. Of course, I love food, and coffee, and laughter, and …well all of the things you said. ooooo I just love me now. I sound SO wonderful! I’d love to meet this me!!! hahaha. You are too adorable. I feel the same way about you, and I did from the very first second I read your writing. My husband keeps asking me, “Why are you smiling? What are you laughing about?” So I’ll read him a bit. But he reads my posts every day, so he knows why I love you and my other new (and old) friends as well. Most of my friends from work tell me they read my blog, but they don’t write, except my lovely, Paula, who is like a daughter to me. You would like her, too.

      Your computer must be back in business!1 Thank goodness. Now when you come out here to go to Berkeley, you’ll come down and visit V and me all the time on your holidays. We’ll be like your second family. Marsha Lee, AKA Toadie:)


  6. This is so true. Sometimes I feel like I’m talking to a kindred spirit. It’s been fun getting to know you through your posts and comments and our back and forth chat. I hope we do get to meet one day. Come to Australia!


    • I totally agree! With you it was instant as well as with many of the others that you can read in my comment sections. I have made the most wonderful friends. I talked to my friend Jean the other day about going to Australia. She said it was a 26 hour flight! Yikes!!! Really? You know we could skype! That might be easier. We could write a book together! We could meet somewhere in between and only fly 12.5 hours each! OH, or you could come to California!!! Endless possibilities. Lots of love to you at Christmas 🙂 Marsha


    • Aye, and she is a very fabulous and groovy toadie, indeed. I have known her some years now, with her aurific eyes glittering and her cool rough skin glowing in the moonlight, as I always meet her in the evening beneath the streetlamp. Aye, Marsha Lee Toadie is a bit of a noir toadie, and will catch a ride on other larger toads’ backs if danger is afoot. She is exceedingly fine and even chirps!!


  7. You clicked with me right from the start. I never expected friendships when I started blogging. I thought it would be a one-way street. Boy, was I wrong!


    • You SURE were! There’s no avoiding it. You became a friend immediately after I read your first post! I just don’t understand how that happens, though when words are such a small part of how we communicate. Yet, your words are so sensible, and down to earth. Then the comments humanized you even more. I love blogging!!! And I adore you and your blog! I have you on speed dial! Marsha 🙂


        • Thank goodness, Kathy. I hate unrequited friendship!!! Unrequited love is bad enough, but move that over to friendship, and there would be no reason to live!!! Wouldn’t it be awful to reach out in friendship and EVERY time be rebuffed by every person. I’ve heard that babies that don’t get held and loved enough die. I think the same would work with adults who don’t get any friendship. Marsha’s philosophical morning – before coffee rant 🙂


  8. I am really hoping that one day in the distant centuries that Marsha and Ralph will become friends. A time when battles are finally fought, words are exchanged in love and harmony, posts and comments are intermingled in a dance of graciousness and mutual respect ……………. NO WAY !!! I am having too much fun. En garde !


  9. This is a very good poem and very good thoughts, Funny I read this this morning, I am a bit behind, with work and everything. I am feeling so overwhelmed with things at the moment and tears are running down my face and I don’t know why. I am so happy to count some cyber people my friends and I am so grateful for it. I would like to hug you all tightly! With lots of Love Marsha, my friend from Ute x


    • I know!!!!!!!!! But I like you too, and I forgave you long ago. I’m such a griper that you can be sure that I would have given you a VERY bad time if I thought you were ignoring me on purpose!!! I mean on purpose that wasn’t up to my standards of importance. I think flu and moving are good enough excuses to let it slide – THIS TIME!!!!! OK, I’m getting carried away. I don’t want to work myself up to a RANT because I’m not even mad at you – just the opposite. I’m just glad you’re back! And THANKS for all the LIKES! 🙂 🙂





Hi, I'm Marsha Ingrao, a retired educator and wife of a retired realtor. My all-consuming hobby is blogging and it has changed my life. My friends live all over the world. In November 2020, we sold everything and retired to the mile-high desert of Prescott, AZ. We live less than five miles from the Granite Dells, four lakes, and hundreds of trails with our dog, Kalev, and two cats, Moji and Nutter Butter. Vince's sister came with us and lives close by. Every day is a new adventure.

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